Top 10 Tips for a Better Sex Life

If 80 is the new 50, then 50 must be the new 30. No, it's not a math lesson but what a large number of urban women seem to be thinking. The growing queues in front of designer shops and med spas that offer nips, tucks and lasers for chin hair bear testimony to the fact that as we get older we are looking better than ever before. But here's something I don't get: surely the plan is not to meekly go to the grave with a trim body.

1. Sexuality is a state of mind. If the mind is willing, the body will perform!

2. Feeling sexy is a delicate balance of emotional and physical issues. Being fit and healthy is as important as the gracious acceptance of the ageing process.

3. Don't let the youth brigade stress you out. Sexuality is in your head and to have a good sex life you need to feel beautiful within.

4. Sex is not only about penetration. Despite the wrinkles and greying hair, you are still sexy inside. It's about feeling good, wanted and loved.

5. Get physical. Yes, Indian men are not very tactile, but learn to touch and caress; hug and kiss. Just the physical proximity will give you a sense of well-being.

6. Communication is king. Now that you are older, you should be comfortable enough to discuss your sexual preferences as well as your fantasies with your partner.

7. Older means freer-so be flexible-mentally. Experiment, be spontaneous and forget all the rigid rules of the past.

8. Be patient and savour the sex. As you get older it takes longer! So, linger, explore and rejoice.

9. Pay attention to your partner's needs. The more you give the more you will receive.

10. Accept slowing down. If it doesn't quite happen as you expect it to, it's ok. Everyone but everyone has had an encounter with lackadaisical libidos. Always remember that sex is good. Even when it's bad it's good!